I have been part of the weight loss online community now for approximately 4 months. What has become abundantly clear to me is that women totally outnumber the men by not just a big margin, but a really huge margin! What I also notice is that women seem to have been in this community all there lives, one way or another. They  support each other,  listen to each other (really listen) and find inventive ways to get together and do more supporting and listening! To be a guy in this community you kind of feel like the harmless gay friend who talks about his weight and tells everybody how wonderful they are.

I think for guys we relate more too action. We can talk about action. We can talk about what we are going to do, how we are going to do it and how we did it…but not about how we felt during that time. Not to say I don’t have feelings. Things make me happy and things make me sad. For the most part I am a pretty happy (not gay) guy. The only thing that exercising and diet make me feel is hungry. It has little else to do with any other kind of feelings. So, I have nothing like that to share with the community on that level. What that means is you are now on the outside looking in.

I don’t think weight loss is just for girls. There is an awful lot of guys going to gyms all around the country. I would guess, that at anytime of the day at any gym you would probably find more guys than girls. So, obviously men are being fit and watching there weight. They just don’t find the need to talk about that experience.

When they do it takes of the form of instruction. How to exercise, what you should eat or here’s how I got these results. Actionable things.

Now I love the women that I have meet in this online community. Their stories are truly inspirational and they provide me with a huge amount of motivation on a daily basis (motivation I need by the way and hope continues after this blog). But, I can’t relate to the emotional stuff. The “I eat when I feel like this”, “I need to control my emotional eating”, etc, etc. I think we are overweight, or are struggling with weight simply because of our lifestyle not emotions. We don’t move enough anymore, we eat quick foods that are no good for us and we are after-all naturally inclined to feast not famine.

So, the solution to me is straight forward. Exercise more and eat healthy. That’s it, nothing else, it is actually that simple (for a guy). Emotions have nothing to do with it (for a guy). I have a simple problem and I am going to find the simplest solution, I don’t want to make it more than needs to be.  I sometimes think that emotions being part of weight-loss is there because the gender that “talks” the most about weight-loss is heavily populated with the gender that likes to talk about feelings in the first place. Thus, weight-loss needs to all about feelings. Maybe, and I say that very genuinely, it could very well be that emotions play a great deal in weight-loss for women, I don’t argue that. My point is that for men, not so much.

So, back to my original thought process here. Where are all the guys in the online weight loss community. I really want to hear from you. I think we have a lot of offer to each other. Actionable stuff like your routine, changes you made that worked, didn’t work. Best foods before and after workouts, etc, etc. I love the ladies (clearly not gay) and want to hear more of their inspirational stories and really need the motivation that only they can provide (I am a non-gay guy who loves it when a women says he is looking great!). But, I would also like to have more guys in my online group.

I know you out there. Leave a comment about your workout, tell me how you felt!

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